ADHD Grief: See it, sit in it, breathe through it, and then let it go

By Laura MacNiven

I have been thinking about grief lately. Not just the grief of losing someone, but also the kind you experience when something doesn’t go the way you thought it would.

GriefI was recently told that you can be sad about the loss of an imagined future and that we, as human beings, experience these moments of loss and pain all the time. We just don’t always realize it in the moment.

If you can take a few minutes to honour such feelings as you experience them, you can then actively work to let them dissipate into the air.

You are then left more open and able to bloom.  

If you have ADHD, whether you realize it or not, you experience grief-like symptoms on the regular. You are at risk of this because of three main reasons:

  1. You have too many ideas. You could never execute them all!
  1. You struggle to put into action the things you want to do. So, you get stuck a lot.
  1. Your plans are BIG, probably more WOW than those around you. The steps would be a lot for anyone to go through!

So, watch for these “grief traps”. They can hold you back from your real goals, and leave you stuck in feelings of guilt and shame. Notice when you are feeling sad about something you didn’t or couldn’t do, sit in it, breathe through it, and then let it go.

Beating ADHD is in facing it, head on, and with authenticity.


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