The art of “moving on” post-fight

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Let’s face it. We all have conflict sometimes. And actually “fighting” is a fundamental part of being in intimate family relationships. It can be an important opportunity to be more honest with each other (or yourself), to work through things that (frankly) need to be talked about, and “clear the air” about your wants and longings.

What we often don’t talk about, though, is how to recover from conflict.
So you’ve let it out.
You’ve said your piece, but now you might feel so far in a “funk” that you don’t know how to get back on track.

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Book Recommendation - The ADHD Effect on Marriage

blur blurred book 46274 SmallThe Springboard Team has learned so much from Melissa Orlov. Her process for naming the effect of ADHD on couples has made an enormous impact around the world and on the work we do at the clinic. What we find so powerful about it is her ability to help us all understand the root of where emotions come from when a family is living with attention issues.

By understanding ADHD deeply, both you and your partner can explore your relationship with a new lens. Whether both individuals have ADHD, or one does, ADHD symptoms can get in the way of honest communication, feeling loved and the overall dynamics of relationships.

 

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Summer Living with ADHD

beach blur camper 386000 smallWhen ADHD is part of your family life, you might have some mixed feelings about summer time. On the one hand, it may feel like a relief to step away from stresses related to school and homework. On the other hand, you may have concerns about how to help yourself and your family cope with the many transitions and changes in routines that summer brings.

To make things more complicated, as Canadians, we are often so excited for the weather to finally be nice that we have a tendency to over hype and over commit with our summer plans. Beware of the temptation of trying to fit too many things into your family’s schedule this summer and consider actively planning time for “rejuvenation”.

Read on to see our top 4 tips for slowing down this summer.

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Getting ready for the next school year starts this summer

action activity boy small 296301It’s that time of year where school starts to wrap up, and if you have ADHD in your home, you might really be feeling like you need a serious break. You probably all (parents and students) want to run out the front doors of the school and not give another thought to anything academic until the absolute last minute in September.

Wait, stop, not so fast!

Before you put school “out of mind” for the summer, consider these 3 steps (we promise it will be easier now than in the fall)!

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Join Dr. Ainslie Gray for a live webcast June 13th

Dr Gray WebinarFree Professional Learning Event: The Many Faces of ADHD with Springboard's Dr. Ainslie Gray

ADHD often doesn’t present itself the way you might expect it to. Firstly, because there are still so many myths about what ADHD is and isn’t. We talked about this in another recent post. Secondly, although we hear many familiar themes in the experiences of people who have attention issues, every individual’s story and presentation is uniquely theirs. Thirdly, often the secondary issues created by untreated ADHD can make it hard to identify the root cause, and the initial diagnosis can get missed.

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Parenting with ADHD: Why picking battles is so important

Parenting pickYourBattles boy child childhood 6459From Laura MacNiven, Director of Health Education/Coaching at Springboard Clinic

Let’s face it, children with ADHD hear the word “no” a lot. They hear “sit down”, “listen”, “If only you tried harder”, “stop bouncing”, and not a lot of “yes”. I think when you hear a lot of the word no, you really physically, emotionally and mentally lose motivation. You don’t feel like you can do the right thing. You’re just kind of trying to avoid disasters.

That’s why picking battles can be so important for working with ADHD children. We can work to notice when they are doing something right (or partially right), try to give freedom when possible to make “low-risk” mistakes, and really work to say the word “yes” whenever we can.

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