"Adventure Deficit Disorder & ADHD Relationships" is an article written by clinical psychologist Kirsten Milliken, outlining the "waning of the intense connection felt when falling in love" in ADHD relationships.
With or without ADHD, every relationship loses some of the thrill over time. That's inevitable. But, there's more to it with ADHD.
Here are some highlights from the post:
* Studies have found that falling in love activates the reward pathway of your brain. When in love, neurotransmitters 'flood' the brain" creating a feeling of being focused, motivated, interested, and 'on.'"
* With ADHD, there is a deficit in the function of this reward pathway. On one end, an ADHD brain tends to 'flood' even more than a non-ADHD brain. This leads to ADHD individuals falling in love hard and fast. On the other end, an ADHD brain is less sensitive to "being engaged by stimuli that are not inherently rewarding or reinforcing." So, as an ADHD adult gets more comfortable in a relationship and the excitement wanes, the level of engagement can fall far below what is 'typical.'
* To help with this, the author suggests participating in "exciting or playful activities together." It's important to focus on novel activities - ones that will increase your closeness and stimulate the reward center of your brain. As the article states: "adventure alleviates boredom...[and] if we know anything about ADHD, it is that boredom is the kiss of death."
We recommend checking out the article for more information. There were more specific explanations and theories about the importance of novelty worth reading!